The easiest thing in the world to be is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don’t let them put you in that position.
Indeed, you being you and me being me can be effortless… But then why does it seem so difficult? Imagine trying to excavate a building after an earthquake. It is very difficult looking for people and items that lay buried under gravel. Same with us. Sometimes the act or reclaiming authenticity can be as simple as consciously choosing to take off a mask but sometimes years of conditioning have surrounded us with rings of entire facades, if not cities that we need to abandon, if even just for a moment, by spreading our wings and soaring up towards the azure skies of freedom. It is enough to shift our point of view, to allow us to gather the scope of what has been created and make changes where they need to be made. One tiny step at a time, desire serving as a catalyst, choice ushering the first move.
I have found that it is the willingness to say what I feel and want that makes me feel whole.
Painting, dancing and singing are all lovely and certainly activities to follow, be that your passion, but I think it is the small stuff that truly makes a difference in the way our lives align. I noticed that lately with my workouts realizing that the hour or two I spend a day working on my body constitutes a small percentage of my day. It is how I hold myself (posture), carry myself (energy), and feed myself (nutrition) and rest that make the most noticeable brushstrokes on my canvas. Same is true with words. While I aspire to create worlds with my writing, it is the words I use on a second to second basis that color my world.
Choose wisely and be kind to yourself. If I choose to look at (or speak about) a situation as an opportunity rather than a hindrance, or just breathing deeply when the circumstance cannot be reframed, it reflects on the quality of my now. Recently I got a great tip from a coworker. Rather than saying, I’ve got to do something, choose: I get to do this! How fortunate of me! Try it, it works!
Alter the view of yourself to reflect your deepest yearnings realized now. Why wait? Be what you aspire to be already. If the seeds have been planted, they need the sunshine of your joy, the water of your conviction and the air of your anticipation to germinate.
In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different.
Delve into your uniqueness. So many people are constantly worried about not fitting in, being different, being out of place. Celebrate it! Let the unique essence of your being seduce the world. There are so many unrealized people living mundane lives. Don’t be one of them. Dare to be different. Dare to be You!
Poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of another.
Intuition begins with trust and that road can be bumpy. But regardless of its scope, the circle must one day close and bring you back to the beginning where another old truth blossoms to grace you with its wisdom: there is no other way than that, which begins in your heart. Now, all this searching and tuning in and paying attention tend to carry an air of seriousness. But the process needn’t be somber! Kindling the playfulness we experienced as children keeps us young and bolsters any slips on the road. In my view, there is nothing make a person more attractive than their ability to poke fun at themselves and take things lightly when they seem to fall apart.
Living intuitively activated, staying plugged in to that part of ourselves, which knows what is good for us, requires daily practice. Emotional self-awareness plays a huge part in being able to discern which path to take in the event of having to make a choice. I like beginning my day with writing a stream of consciousness, two to four page piece that gets the chatter out. It allows me to check in with myself, see into me (intimacy) and slow down and order my thinking, which is chaotic by nature. Then, throughout my day, I check with myself asking whether what I am about to do feels right and weigh it against other options. Putting myself first, I don’t feel bad. Because I know that only when I am happy and acting in harmony with my heart can I make others happy.
Write about what disturbs you, what you fear, what you have not been willing to speak about. Be willing to be split open.
Writing and hoopdancing happen to be my preferred channels for spontaneous self-expression but there is a gamut of other options. An intense loud shout, a discreet natter with your best friend or a run through the forest, the point is that the channel doesn’t matter. The key is to get the energy out and allow it to flow out, ripple out from your womb and do what it must. Physicists claim that stars are born from interstellar clouds. Who knows what worlds you give birth to once you allow your essence to spread?
When we trust ourselves, have the courage of a warrior to face the truth and embody the playfulness of a puppy, we can act spontaneously and bring much joy into the world that would normally lay obscure. So, dare to come out and reveal the real You. It feels good, even if it breeds initial tension. The world is waiting, it needs your uniqueness to be whole. May you spy the rose petals on your path… I wish you a beautiful day and close with a final quote by Sir Cecil Beaton:
Be daring, be different, be impractical, be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers, the creatures of the commonplace, the slaves of the ordinary.